Choose Connection, Not Correction
A complimentary copy of Avive la Vie: An Adventure in Belonging for licensed therapists, counselors, and coaches. Help clients (and yourself) shift from fixing to belonging.Â
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Why this book matters in clinical work
Therapy stalls when clients are stuck in cycles of self-critique, performance, and emotional avoidance.Â
Avive la Vie offers a connection-first lens, replacing “try harder / be better” with safety, attunement, and belonging as the conditions for real change.Â
You’ll recognize these six “false belonging” habits in client narratives and in supervision: performance, self-neglect, pushing love away, getting lost in anxiety, rejecting feelings, and self-doubt.Â
The book names these patterns without shame and offers gentle redirects toward authentic connection.
About the author
JF Benoist is passionate about bringing people together. Creating community with a felt sense of belonging and acknowledging the deeply innate core of love, value, courage, and resilience.
After decades working alongside people navigating relationship strain, anxiety, depression, addiction, and more, JF recognized a consistent thread: much of our pain and suffering comes from disconnection from ourselves, from others, and from the natural world.
A person’s ability to develop a secure sense of belonging profoundly shapes access to emotional safety and authentic expression. Connection underlies everything.
This life-changing work led JF to launch the Avive la Vie movement and write Avive la Vie – An Adventure in Belonging.
Why this matters to you
- Offers a connection-first frame you can bring into any modality without changing your model.
- Helps you name patterns without shame (e.g., perfectionism/self-attack) and invite one small, embodied check-in.
- Provides language to attune to the emotional body, so sessions move from looping narrative to felt change.
- Supports kind, clear boundaries grounded in belonging—reducing clinician over-functioning and client dependence.
Clinically, the book translates these principles into client-friendly language, prompts, and micro-practices you can use tomorrow in intakes, individual, couples, and group settings. The approach is trauma-aware, non-pathologizing, and adaptable across private practice, agency, and training environments.
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